Marriage 101

The following is a post from Joyce at Keeping Up With the Moys.

The back-to-school ads are out, and despite the fact that summer actually ends in mid-September, summer break ends soon for most of the kids in our lives. Whether your kids are in public or private school, or you homeschool or unschool, we all have to agree that this whole ‘learning’ thing never really ends. From elementary school to college, and from job training to workshops, if you really want to ‘master’ anything, you need to study and continue learning.

It is the same way in our marriages. We can’t expect that once we say, “I do” we automatically know how to be a great husband or a great wife. So, let’s go back to school and take a look at a “beginner’s” course on marriage.

Welcome to Marriage 101! While I will be your facilitator for this course, the syllabus is flexible. Choose your own instructors and textbooks, but make sure you complete the assignments for a good grade.

Course Description:

Take the Marriage Mission Statement that you have created to find resources that will guide you in building a healthy marriage.

Instructors:

Find an older couple whose marriage you respect. This could be a pastor and his wife, maybe a woman in your women’s ministry and her husband…perhaps even your own parents or in-laws (or maybe not… :p). Or maybe what you really need is a marriage counselor. Your “instructors” can help you along to grow in your own journey as a couple.

Textbooks:

With so much information out there, it can be overwhelming to find the right book to read. You need to find the right one for you based on your Marriage Mission Statement. Do you need to pray more for one another? Maybe you need ideas for date nights. What has helped other marriages to grow? Read stories from couples who have been through challenges and made it through.

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Here is list of some books that I have read and liked, or are reading right now/soon (from friend’s recommendations):

  • Love Talk by Les and Leslie Parrott
  • The Time-Starved Marriage by Les and Leslie Parrott
  • Praying God’s Word for Your Husband by Kathi Lipp
  • Your Marriage Masterpiece: God’s Amazing Design for Your Life Together by Al Janssen
  • Fit to be Tied by Bill and Lynne Hybels
  • Love & War: Devotional for Couples by John and Stasi Eldredge
  • To Walk or Stay by Lara Williams
  • The Love Dare by Stephen Kendrick and Alex Kendrick
  • The Marriage Project by Kathi Lipp
  • Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires, the Respect He Desperately Needs by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman
  • Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend
  • The Power of a Praying Husband by Stormie Omartian
  • The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
  • Couple’s Devotional Bible

Websites/Blogs:

These are a few sites that I have found helpful and have practical marriage tips.

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Assignments:

  • Ask your potential mentor couple out to a coffee date.
  • Choose a marriage book to read together.
  • Have a date night.

Your turn…Do you have a mentor couple in your life? What books have you read that have been helpful to growing your marriage? Complete the assignments, and come back here to let us know how it went.

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Joyce is a business major turned PreK teacher turned stay-at-home mommy to 2 little girls. She likes to dabble in a little bit of everything, from writing newsletters (for our family and for MOPS) to crafting to trying out new recipes…basically just trying new things. She loves God, family and friends, date nights, board games, books, and blogging. Joyce is also the Community Director for HelloMornings. You can visit her over at Keeping Up with the Moys or on Twitter.

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Comments

  1. After almost 40 years of marriage, my best advice is this: Keep God first in YOUR life (He’ll keep you in check) and commit to be your mate’s best friend. Believe me, you won’t go wrong.

  2. Such great info and advice! I’m excited about all the resources you listed and will be adding the books I haven’t read yet to my reading list.

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