The following is a guest post from my cousin, Stacye Breedlove. I’m so happy to have her sharing her story here on the blog.
Let me ask you a question, do you know a teen parent or have you seen a pregnant teen? The answer is assuredly, yes!
Now, take time to ponder on the first time you heard the news of a young person being pregnant or when you first laid eyes on a pregnant teen.
Did you immediately pass judgment?
Did you begin to discuss with others what life would be like for this teen mom/dad or how her/his life is just ruined?
If you did, don’t worry…I’m not here to judge. I do want to share what I’ve learned from my life as a teen parent.
Teen parenting is a huge job and teen parents that strive to do it well, should be commended, and not condemned. Not only did I end up with a beautiful family, I completed high school, completed college, and started my own business.
What I’ve come to learn is I’m not defined by any of my accomplishments, titles, or experiences. I have to give much of that credit to the highest, God.
Despite my success, there were a number of lies we tell teen parents that I’ve heard over the years.
You Have Ruined Your Life
If anyone reading this blog is spiritual or considers themselves Christians, you probably understand that God has provided anyone, at any time, and in any place, the ability to do anything. God reminds us time and time again that despite our shortcomings, We Can and We Will.
“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.” (Philippians 4:13 NKJV)
You Will Not be Able to Complete School
God’s expectations of us don’t change because we made a u-turn instead of going straight. His word says, “If God be for us, who can be against us?” (Romans 8:31 NIV)
You Won’t Amount to Much
Throughout the Bible, God continues to use the least expected people to demonstrate miracles and in providing His mercy and grace. Whenever I hear people make such demeaning statements about people, I always revert to “No weapon formed against me shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn.” (Isaiah 54:17 NKJV)
What We Should Do
You may have heard the saying, “let your haters be your motivators”, that’s exactly what I did. As I navigated through life as a teen parent, I was determined to prove everyone, and I do mean everyone, wrong. Based on my experiences, here’s how I feel we should respond to teen parents:
- Take a step back and assess how you judge teen parents or their situations.
- If you aren’t coming from a place of love, it might be wise to reserve your thoughts and suggestions.
- Ask yourself “What would God’s response be?”
- Remember that not only does judgment reflect rejection, it doesn’t provide a solution to what is regarded as a problem. Find a way to help.