At the beginning of the year, we set out to accomplished lots of goals, but as excitement of the “new” is starting to wear out, we are getting burned out during this season of spring cleaning and end-of-school-year events, or you’re just ready for a break, it is hard to be intentional about living out Mark 12:30-31. In these verses, Jesus says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
During our church’s Parents’ Night Out, our children’s director led a devotion (before we left our kiddos for a date night) which included these verses. She shared that we need to love our closest neighbor, which is our spouse! To fully love our spouse, we need to know how they best receive love. At a book study, I got a great reminder of showing love using the five love languages.
If you haven’t heard of the five love languages, here’s what it is all about in a nutshell – Dr. Gary Chapman shares in his book, The Five Love Languages, five ways to express and experience love: receiving gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, and quality time.
I know I tend to express love the way I want to experience love, which is through acts of service. When I do something nice for someone, I think it will make them feel loved, but that is only true if their love language is also acts of service. However, my husband’s love language is words of affirmation. He feels loved when someone affirms him through positive words. And if you must know, my two girls’ love language are quality time and physical touch, which means we are all over the charts with love in our house. :p This also means, we definitely need to be more intentional and creative in showing our love for those around us.
And you’ve guess it! I’ve got some action steps for you to take!
- Find out your own love language using the Profile tab on The Five Love Languages site (or print out a PDF). They have profiles for wives, husbands, singles, children, and teens.
- Have your husband find out his love language using the Profile tab.
- List five ways you can show each other love using each other’s love languages.
- Complete at least one of those ways before or by Father’s Day.
What is your love language? How can your husband show you love? What is your husband’s love language? How can you show him love?