This week, I was having one of my regular phone calls with a favorite gal pal (who’s part friend, accountability partner, counselor, reality checker, comedian and so much more) when we got on the subject of moms who allow their kids’ social lives to extinguish their own. I laughed knowingly as I thought about how my own weekends are usually dominated by activities for my kids–birthday parties, school programs, Little League baseball game, trips to the zoo or park, playdates…
Granted, there are seasons. Life before kids and life after kids should be different. Kid should cause your priorities and schedule, accordingly, to shift.
However, we sometimes change so much for our kids and do so much for and with them, that before you know it…
- We haven’t had a girl’s night out in months (or dare I say, years)
- Our friends hardly ever get calls from us anymore
- We have no clue what’s going on in the lives of our family and friends
- Our circle of adults only includes parents with kids at our child’s school or on the same sports team
- We’ve forgotten what it’s like to date our spouse
- We haven’t seen a live concert or movie in a theater in ages
- Our idea of grown-folk entertainment is watching D.J. Rock on Yo Gabba Gabba
- The only time we have company over is to host playdates for the kids
- We respond to every social invitation with, “Can we bring the kids?”
None of these things are bad in and of themselves, but a little time away from the kids is good for the soul.
Just because you’re a parent doesn’t mean your social life has to die. Tone it down, maybe. But don’t let it go all together. Go out on a kid-free date with your spouse. Maybe block off a Saturday to hang out with your girlfriends. You could even put the kids to bed early so you can chat with your friends on the phone or Skype.
Then, the next step is to make the plans and make it happen.
Coming Soon on Next Level Mama
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- The dads are taking over
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